Distress tolerance

It is mid-winter here in Melbourne and so it is hardly surprising that I am thinking about warmth, in particular the emotional tone of warmth. I could also say a metaskill of warmth. Taken from Processwork a metaskill is a feeling attitude or tone, a quality to how a...

Happiness as a disorder

Our moods sit somewhere along a continuum, with melancholy at one end and happiness as the polarity. The more desired states are at the happy end of the range. The pursuit of happiness is recorded as an inalienable right in the US declaration of independence. This...

Making an ally of the critic

After feeling unfairly criticised I ended up contorted and twisted, wearing my insides as outerwear. Miserable and bruised, I feel all inside and outside and upside down. How to make an ally of this criticism, as unwanted and as unpalatable as it is? At first it...

Critics and criticism

I tend to be critical of myself, maybe not more or less than others are of themselves, and certainly more critical of myself than others tend to be. I do get a bit tyrannised by the voices of my inner critics, those little nagging voices who criticise what I do and...

Happy Blue Year

2011 is starting and I want to wish everybody a happy blue year. I’d love a year free from pressure to be happy. I notice the quest for happiness is becoming a relentless push. If you’re not happy apparently you should make yourself happy. I couldn’t...