It is difficult for an outsider to understand that state, and it can be just as impossible for the one on the inside to be in touch with themselves. Listening is the task at hand, to yourself or to another.
This is not a time for judgments or for pressure. Pushing can make change even more difficult and increase feelings of helplessness. In a time of darkness and confusion, frolicking might not possible, and that’s OK, being is enough.
Some days just being is enough or, if you are an otter, floating is enough.